My Personal Goal:
Become a "Well Rounded" Man
In my opinion, this is the
type of man that has striven and continues to strive to better himself. The typeof man that is in touch with his own spirit
(Man, Know Thyself), always open to learn new things, get involved with activities to increase awareness and knowledge, takes
care of his responsibilities, never settles for mediocrity, travels around andseekout new experiences, loves those close to
him andis loved in return,and is always humble in his approach to things.
My Spare Time
Basically
I live life pretty simple. I work 5 days a week, off weekends. I work out at least 4 to five times a week and most mornings
(I'm not a morning person). I go to church at IBOC in Dallas w/ Dr. Rickie Rush as pastor on Sundays and Mondays. Outside
of that I do still love to step with my frat, read novels, movies, and travel a little. I love to laugh and I have a very
small circle to friends that I hang with. I do NOT get all into other folks business and I do not like to spread mine around,
unless it is a praise report. I am a spiritually aware person, but I am a work-in-progress and I still fall short sometimes.
Questions
on What is Needed in a Relationship with Me
What I want a sister to ask me...
Do you qualify to be the man I need you to be?
Will you be able to recognize the things you
need to see? Will you be able to understand, that
I'm a good woman and in my life I need a good man?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to fertilize my unproduced seeds?
Can you fulfill, as I can, all of our needs?
Can you put me in my place if you see I am slippin?
Can you talk to me, wholeheartedly, not constantly trippin??
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be called all mine?
Can you leave the other women and temptations behind?
Can you come to me with your problems and not wait until it's too late?
Can you stand up and admit if you made a mistake?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be the honest ebony man I
would want you to be?
Would you be able to look me in my eyes and admit your feelings to me?
Could you take me in your arms and make love to me all night long?
Can you be sensitive and still be strong?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be my friend as well as my lover?
Can you put our love before any other?
Can you cherish me as if I were Diamonds & Gold?
Can you make me feel like I'm the last woman you'll ever hold?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be called a good man?
If I have doubts can you reassure me and understand?
Can your love intoxicate me as if I were High?
To be in my life, I need to know,
DO YOU QUALIFY?
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My Response to the Sister...
You ask, do I qualify.
Can I fulfill your needs and become the man you need me to be?
My sister, are you prepared for what you've asked for?
Can you handle the responsibility?
Can you accept that, by GOD, I am the chosen?
one, the authority, the comforter, and the head?
Will you submit and willingly follow my path?
Or will you fight with me instead?
If I am your King, will you treat me as such?
Will I get the best of your beauty and poise?
Or will I be subjected to an appearance neglected, and checked with some serious noise?
When I talk, will you listen?
I mean whole heartedly and feel me?
Or will you rush me just to make your point too?
Can I be the man at all times? Even when it hurts...
Or is it just when it's convenient for you?
Can you love me for me, and not who you wish I could be?
Will you see the strong Black Man within?
Or will you always remind me of the all the past brothers behind me and make me pay for their sins?
If I don't send you flowers the day your co-worker received some, will you know that I love you still?
Or will my good name be uttered along with those other doggish brothers?
Will you question if my commitment is real?
Will you be patient and teach me to understand you, and allow my knowledge of your needs to grow?
Or will you shut me out when I ask, Baby what's wrong?
Or will you respond with, "Well a REAL man would know!"
When we first met, what was it that caught your eye? Was it my mind, my heart, my personality?
Or was it my suit, or my job, or do you love what I drive, instead of what's driving me?
Yes I can, and I will, make love to you from midnight to the dawning of the sun.
But, if I tell you I'm tired, will you trust I'm sincere or believe that there must be another one?
My sister, I love you and my heart can be yours. No woman could lead me astray.
But like you, I have needs, so I beg of you, please, in this love thang meet me half way.
In life's tough times I'll hold you, in the rough times I'll mold you; your simplest wish will be my command.
My life is yours if need be.
Yes you can fully bleed me, and when hell comes, in your place, I'll stand.
A good relationship is a powerful institution that must be built on a foundation of two.
So to answer your question, YES sister, I do qualify.
Now, more importantly! Do you?
What is Sexy?
In my opinion, sexy is not a state of body, but a state of mind. In many instances
I`ve obeserved ladies that are both slim and trim and those who are not in the most impressive shape, but it was the style
of the person that makes them sexy. I have seen a slim lady walking with a larger lady and the larger lady had more appeal
to me because she seemingly had alot of confidence in herself as well as a very pleasant personality. Many of our outwardly
goregous sistas depend on their looks so much that they have a messed up attitude or little or no personality with them. They
would intially attract a man, but they could not keep one. The reason behind the mystery why men at times choose a sista that
is not as attractive as another is due not to physically sexuality of the person, but the mental sexuality. A woman who can
look at me in my eye and make me feel like she really wants me and makes me want her as well...my my my...there is nothing
I would refuse her. No matter how her body looks.
What is a "Good Black Man?"
Good Black
Men are indeed all around. You pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Most you can't see because you
don't know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to
turn your heads. He might
not wear a suit or push a Lex. He might not have a "body like Tyson with a Denzelface." But, as you mature, you realize it's
better to find someone who's got your back than someone who turns your head. A good man doesn't agree whole heartedly with
everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive,
sweet,caring, sincere, yada, yada he is (he won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash,
but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing
to do the same. A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed
in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to "catch"
him doing something wrong so you can declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!!" A good man isn't insecure about his women having
great achievements. In fact he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with she begins to lose herself, for the
sake of "not hurting his feelings, or just want to make him happy." His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams
and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.
A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable
to him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying
into the myth that black men are no good. It's just not true.
Who is my Future Lady?
In all
ways, she is a lady, a child of God. She posses the ability to be honest, warm, serious, intelligent, and witty. Her beauty
does not go to her head but appreciates things. She is into self-improvement and functions aloft as her own person, connected
to me in heart and soul. We have many things in common, some things not, but we communicate pretty well. We share similar
desires and dreams. She is willing to be supportive and speak her mind. She is respectful and very, very affectionate as well
as spontaneous. She is the lady I am waiting for, the lady I will love for the rest of my life.
A Faithful Man
A faithful man will be richly blessed, but one eager to get rich will not go unpunished. (Proverbs 28:20)
There is a distinct difference between the businessperson who operates based on living in the Promised Land
versus the one who operates in Egypt. In Egypt, the businessperson sweats and toils to generate an outcome. The final objective
is foremost in their mind. Outcome is everything.
In the Promised Land, we learn that obedience is the only thing that matters. We are called to execute, and
leave outcome to God. Sometimes that outcome is very positive, yielding a return. In other cases, we may not yield a corresponding
return. We may even get a negative outcome. The difference is that we know that we have been faithful to what God has called
us to and we yield results to God. God often blesses obedience beyond what we deserve. If God brings wealth to your life,
it should come as a by-product of obedience, not an end in itself.
God may call each of us to be obedient to situations that may not yield immediate, positive results. It is
in these times that our faith must be obedience-based versus outcome-based. What if Jesus had considered the immediate ramifications
of whether he would go to the cross? Based on the immediate outcome, the decision would have been an easy one. Who wants to
die on a cross? However, for Him there was a higher purpose in that obedience. We are called to this same kind of obedience.
This means putting our own flesh on the line daily, dying to our own self-will.
Message to the Ladies
You say you want a GOOD MAN
And when it comes to finding one you won`t.
Because when it comes to really
wanting one,
Simply put: ladies you don`t.
You say you want a GOOD MAN
One that will always give you hugs,
But
every time I turn around
You`re always chasing after thugs.
You say you want a GOOD MAN
Well I`m here to tell
you that`s not true
Because the last one that came your way,
Wasn`t tall enough for you.
You say you want a GOOD
MAN
Cause you`re tired of trifling mess
But you rolled your eyes at the last one
Because you didn`t like the way
he dressed.
You say you want a GOOD MAN
One that will have you for his wife
Yet every time you come across one,
You
say he`s just too nice.
You say you want a GOOD MAN
Now I`m not saying you should make him beg.
But a brother
should at least know your first and last name
Before you open up your legs.
See if you try that with a GOOD MAN,
In
you he won`t be pleased.
For he realized, just like he could have,
Other brothers have had you with ease.
Now
in order to get a GOOD MAN
You need to listen; see it`s in your favor.
Starting with the fact that no GOOD MAN
Wants
a woman who curses like a sailor.
And in your quest to find a GOOD MAN
Listen as if it`s Law.
You`ll never find
a GOOD MAN,
If you always labelhim as a dog.
See a GOOD MAN wants a woman
That expects to receive his best.
But
you will never ever find one,
If you keep settling for less.
Now if you`ve found a GOOD MAN
That you think might
be right for you.
You`ll know he`s not a GOOD MAN
If he won`t go to church with you.
For in the life of a GOOD
MAN
You`re not first, but don`t take it hard.
See you`re standing right there next to him,
But you`re second after
GOD.
So if you still would like a GOOD MAN
One that will make you a real good husband.
There`s only one thing
left for you to do
And that`s simply become a GOOD WOMAN
What
is Love?
I got
this from a floationg email. I liked some of the entries.
When someone
loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just
know that
your name is safe in their mouths. Billy- age 4
When my grandma got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails
anymore.
So my grandpa does it for her now all the time, even when his hands
got arthritis
too. That's love. Rebecca- age 8
Love is when
a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving Cologne and
they go out
and smell each other. Kari- age 5
Love is when
you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries
without making
them give you any of theirs. Chrissy- age 6
Love is what
makes you smile when you're tired. Terri- age 4
Love is when
my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before
giving it
to him, to make sure the taste is OK. Danny- age 7
Love is when
you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you
still want
to be together and you talk more. My mommy and daddy are like
that. They
look gross when they kiss. Emily- age 8
Love is what's
in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening
presents
and listen. Bobby- age 7 (wow!)
If you want
to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you
hate.
Nikka- age
6
Love is when
you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.
Love is like
a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends
even after
they know each other so well. Tommy- age 6
Love is when
mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken. Elaine- age 5
Love is when
mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is
handsomer
than Robert Redford. Chris- age 7
Love is when
your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all
day. Mary
Ann- age 4
Love is when
mommy sees daddy on the toilet and doesn't think it's gross.
Mark- age
6
You really
shouldn't say "I LOVE YOU" unless you mean it. But if you mean
it, you should
say it a lot. People forget. Jessica- age 8
A 4
year old child whose next door neighbor was an
elderly man
who had just lost his wife. When the child saw the man cry, the
little boy
went over into the man's yard and climbed on top of the man's lap
and just
sat there. When the boy's mother asked him what he'd said to the
neighbor,
the little boy said "Nothing, I just helped him cry."
Cancer (My Sign...not that I really care but I do fit most of this stuff)
*
You are all about home, you are kind and really take
comforts in home and family you love to nurture others
*
You have a good memory and like to talk about things
that you have encountered
*
You are moody
*
You are intuitive and can tell what your lover wants...but
you also like being made love to...you are very receptive
*
You are very sensual, you like to make love on a beach
or in the water (its kind of sexy to you)
*
Any woman who can really appeal to your deep sense
of security will encounter a volcanic eruption so to say when it comes to your sexual indulgence
*
As far as romance you like to be the initiator or you
can be the initiatee in the game of love
*
Since you have a real close tie to home something romantic
to you could be a candle lit home cooked meal
*
You must have a love that is not only physical but
emotional as well if the woman cannot meet that you can go in your shell and chill there for a long while
*
When you are in full flame of love you make your mate
feel like she is the center of the universe and you also want her to feel the same about you
*
You love to feel secure, so a lover who remembers birthdays
and other special days, or simply pops a bottle of champagne for no special reason, will be rewarded with tenderness and affection....
you have a sixth sense which gives you have an instinct on a potential partner and can usually tell if you want to pursue
them or not
*
You can be somewhat jealous but only because you crave
more emotional responses from your mate
*
The ideal Cancer soul mate can spoon on the couch and
watch TV all night long being that you are a homey man but what you really need or want the most is a partner whom can take
things slow and easy....
*
An exchange of emotions is also ideal for you, whether
it's through sex, sports or some passionately-penned correspondence...you are a great one-on-one and love that type of interaction,
but you are also good at parties and enjoy dazzling a crowd
*
In the end, a strong partner who can set the table
and be there for you is heaven-sent, and if they know how to retreat when necessary, even better.
How I Deal With Negativity
Whose Apple Is This?
One day a poor man was seated near the house of a wealthy man,
begging for his daily food. The wealthy man came out and begin to
insult him, calling him lazy and worthless. But the poor man remained
very calm. The poor man's calmness caused the wealthy man to become
increasingly more angry and abusive, in an attempt to illicit some
reaction or response.
The poor man had an apple that someone had given him in his begging bowl.
He held up the apple to the rich man and said:
"If I give you this apple, and you accept it, whose apple is it? The
wealthy man answered, "Why my apple, of course, since you gave it to
me and I accepted it!"
The poor man then said "But if I offer it to you and you do not accept it,
THEN whose apple is it?"
The wealthy man replied, "Why, then its YOUR apple, of course!"
The poor man said, "You offer me anger and insults, but I do not accept
them, so the anger and the insults remain YOURS."
